A British man who claims to have spent 10 years living as a woman and dating guys is now on the hunt for a wife after detransitioning.
Oli London, 33, was assigned a male gender at birth but suffered from “gender identity issues” and began identifying as a trans woman in his early 20s.
London underwent facial feminization surgery and later married a man — but the relationship fell apart when he started to question his gender identity once again.
Now, in a rare move for someone who has transitioned, London is back to identifying as a man and says he believes a heterosexual relationship with a woman could be the key to happiness.
“I’ve dated guys for the last ten years and now I’m sick of them, so I thought that maybe women will make me happier,” he told Caters in an interview released Wednesday.
“I was married to a man up until last year. After I detranstitioned, it didn’t work out because he married me when I was a woman and I was becoming a man,” London further explained. “It just wasn’t the same. After that, nothing worked out with relationships with guys. I would either get cheated on or they wouldn’t be interested.”
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London, however, has long been a controversial figure in the UK, garnering widespread criticism after he began publicly identifying as “transracial” in 2021, claiming he felt more authentic as a Korean person.
The Brit underwent more than 30 surgeries to try and obtain a less “western” and more Asian appearance but later backtracked and apologized, saying: “I can’t be another person. I just need to love myself.”
Earlier this week, he was also blasted on the popular “H3 Podcast” for flippancy about the detransitioning process and for perpetuating harmful myths that being trans is simply a “choice” one makes.
Co-host Ethan Klein accused London of “selling his soul,” adding that detransitioning is incredibly rare in the trans community, with less than 1% of minors opting to return to their originally-assigned gender at birth.
But now, in a confusing bid to land a ladylove, London has employed the help of seduction coach Aliia Roza, who he says is helping him become “more masculine.”
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“I have weekly calls with Aliia where she is teaching me how to find a woman and behave so that they will fall in love with me,” London declared. “She’s training me how to be more romantic and masculine as most girls think that I am gay, and as I was trans, it can be a turnoff.”
London says he’s now wearing suits and taking testosterone in order to present as a suave and macho mate.
In addition to trying to woo women by being a brawny guy, London says he’s also trying not to be too “clingy” with any potential partners.
“When I like someone, I tend to get a little too clingy and people think I am too obsessed, so Aliia is teaching me to distance myself,” he stated. “I have to keep disappearing by ignoring texts for a couple of days so that they are worried and thinking about me.
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“It’s good to always keep busy too as people are attracted to people who are busy all the time.”
London believes Roza’s seduction tips are working wonders, as he enthusiastically stated: “One woman is especially really into me!”
While the quest for his perfect partner is ongoing, London is already idealizing a very domestic future.
“I want to settle down, get married and have a baby, and I see that happening with a woman,” he stated.
“It feels like the missing part of my life. I want to live on a farm with lots of animals, a nice wife and a baby.”
While London’s story of detransitioning is certainly remarkable, it’s also very rare.
According to aFenway Instituteand Massachusetts General Hospital study published in LGBT Health,approximately 13%of people surveyed who “had undergone the process of gender-affirming transition” said that they at some point detransitioned.
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A whopping 82.5% of those cited external factors such as family pressure or having trouble finding a job as the reasons they detransitioned.
And the research, published in 2021,also reported that only 2.4%of trans people detransitioned due to “doubt” about their gender identity — a small portion of the 17,151 people surveyed.
While it has been referred to as “transition regret,” trans advocates believe that term scares trans people from gender affirmation andignites anti-trans rhetoric.
Another surveyalso listed specific reasonings for detransitioning.
They include hormone complications, unresolved psychological issues and discrimination, as well as realizing their struggle pertained to sexual orientation, not their gender.
